Of Being Me

Hello my name is Beaton but by now you should know to call me just B. no other letters, and you don’t pronounce the just. Sometimes I like to tell people that my name is pronounced, you know how in French some letters are silent like the  S in Paris is silent, well all the letters in my name are silent too except for the B……


I am ~B and this is day three of my blog everyday challenge

People are funny creatures, you tell someone to call you B. and next time they call you, they presume to know your name. I have been called Brighton, Brilliant, Beacon, even Brian. I mean Brian? How even? But if there is anything that grinds my gears more than my name being assumed wrong, it’s when I tell someone my name and they pronounce it badly, even when I repeat it…. And I eventually say please just call me B (and save me the drama of hearing my name being mangled) but that other part stays in my head…

Where I come from people tend to give babies names with meaning but I guess most people do to a fashion, like Tawanda (meaning we are many) Tafara (meaning we are happy) Shuvai (meaning Hope) Navelani (also meaning Hope). Most names used here, when you hear them, you understand them, you can define them, you can even find them in the dictionary.

My name is uncommon, I have only “met” one person with it, as a first name, we are Facebook friends… if you are reading this post Hi Beaton!!!!



When I am asked what my name means sometimes I say, “I cannot be defined because my name is not in the dictionary.” But that’s not completely true I looked up my name it means:

“From the warrior’s estate”

From the warrior’s estate wow… do not mess with me. You see, I am a descendant from a line of warriors that leads back to Shaka The Zulu. Shaka reigned in Southern Africa and consolidated a formidable empire in the late 1700s to early 1800s.

Shaka The Zulu

I don’t think my parents had this in mind when they named me, it was in honour to an uncle….  (hmmmm maybe my grandaparents when they named my uncle….)

In Zimbabwe family kin identify each other by their totems, people of the same clan have the same totem (known as mutupo in Shona language) It’s a patron or spirit animal for your people, you respect it and you are not supposed to eat it. When you have done good, when someone is thanking you or beseeching you or down right flattering you, they can invoke your totem in a clan praise name…….

My mother’s totem is heart (moyo). My father’s totem is fire (moto, mlilo)

My totem is Fire. You become your father’s people…..


Again this is uncommon as most, if not all have animals or organic totems. Lion (shumba, murambwi), elephant(zhou ndlovu), monkey(shoko), zebra(dube) heart(moyo) and many other totems. The people who came up with this totem thing were clever not to pick animals like chicken, cow or pig because folk would have been in trouble. Eating your totem is said to cause a host of misfortune including droughts until you appease your ancestors.

My Totem is fire…..

There is nothing I don’t eat, my ancestors “discovered” fire and I pay homage to them in a barbecue.

fire BBQ

Hello my name is Beaton and my spirit animal will barbecue your spirit animal…..

My totem is fire and I was born to be uncommon.

Mlilo, Chauke


PS You can read about my how my ancestors “discovered” fire HERE


Shaka Zulu Image credit Source


22 thoughts on “Of Being Me

  1. But wait… My first name is “B”ryan! 🙂 Great post, Beaton! My wife and I used a very uncommon name for one of our sons. His name is “Fade”. I have never heard of anyone else using that.

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    • Hi Bryan!!!!!
      with a Y lol do you tell that to people or you let them wallow in their negligence?

      One day your son will have serious questions for you, hope you have a great story to tell… I think one must have a great story to tell….


  2. I like how your post looks like it is written on a chalkboard! And you must be an interesting person to talk to face-to-face. You have such an interesting background let alone name! Nice to meet you!

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    • Thank you ♥♥♥
      I loved the theme on first site, it appealed to my story telling nature…. stories are more than just that they are lessons there if you look
      Glad you dropped by^_^

      PS Oh I am so much more than sun parts of my name and background…♥♥♥♥


  3. Hey nice one B, I love that you take pride in knowing thyself… nice to know I’m in good company… I’m sure I’ve told you before that I’m of the Fire spirit element too (Fire Dragon) to be precise… so if ever there is an unholy war… Holla 😉

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  4. Hot stuff. Your totem is rather fascinating. I’m sure your ancestors would be most upset and punish you if you did not barbecue every chance you got.

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