Of Left, Right And Wrong

GUEST POST: Raquel

Left Or Right

As a child, growing up was awesome experience. I was the second child and first daughter of a family of seven children, two boys and five girls. We girls in the middle the first and last born being boys.

Let me write about one unique memory which is still part of me. I am, rather I was a left handed child, I say so because I use my right hand now. To best describe it I am now ambidextrous. No; that doesn’t describe me well neither . Let me describe it further; there are things I do only with my left and there are things l can do with my right only and there are things I use both comfortably. I write with my right hand for I was forced to learn to write with my right and I wash with my left hand, for sweeping I can use both hands .

Being the first female child in the family meant I was my mum’s first student in “home affairs”. She taught me the ways of being a woman, especially when it came to domestic chores.

In the African setting where I come from, the left hand has some taboo functions. You can’t use your left hand to give or take anything from anyone, not even someone you are senior to and worse if it’s an elder. My mum did her best to correct me to the point I got confused. She would say “with that your left hand” using my local dialect and in defence, I tell her “…. it’s my right hand mum“.

Okay this is what I did after failing to identify which was my right hand. If l wanted to do anything, I first watched whoever is around me and I see what hand that person is using. I would then, in my mind’s eye, while still sitting where I was, move myself and turn to the position the person was and try to pick out which is my right hand. That was my means of escape and it really did help me. I failed several times, because if I was seated facing the person and tried to use the hand I saw the person using it would be the opposite hand. Getting directions to go anywhere was a tough one for me but I learnt to use makers.

I was always last to finish any task it was really awkward for me, at a point I became an introvert and then I discovered books. There no one judged me or corrected me, I could flow however I wanted without pressure. It was my place of escape and joy.
I believe my mum somehow gave up, but because the job had to be done, she only made her usual comment and she let me be.”Ka maskar ragai ni“, meaning that left hand. Funny people do at times complain even when it is my right.

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Bio:

*Rachel is a Church girl, a wife and a mother of three. A graduate of Mass-Communication. She calls herself a washer woman as she is into laundry and dry-cleaning business. A Nigerian from the Northeast state of Borno but lives in Abuja. She loves her mum. She loves reading and would love to write more if her muse would keep musing her.

She loves to be addressed with her pen name Raquel.
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Of Being An Introvert

Its World Introvert Day

world introvert day

Shout out to all my fellow introverts who are perfectly comfortable to sit in silence without feeling the need fill it up with awkward conversation and meaningless noise.

Introverts are a somewhat misunderstood sort, in a world that wont stop talking and all you want is a perfect moment of silence.

I feel lost in a crowd and I get asked the question “why are you quiet?” a lot, its not because I have nothing to say; I am always on the verge of words, yet never quite speaking; almost say things much more often than I say them.

why dont we all sit in a big circle hold hands and sing kumbaya?

~me attempting to socialise in the awkward silence at family reunions

Shout out to the Quarter Wife for sharing The Introverts Holiday Survival Guide

I write to know am not alone….

I want to be a mystery
yet be known,
to be in a crowd,
yet alone,
famous,
yet unknown,
To be a wanderer,
yet have a home…….

My personality type is INFP that basically means I’m like an onion, deeply metaphoric, made up of enigmatic layers beneath layers wrapped up in more layers & if I cut myself I cry

INFP means:

  Introverted
iNtuitive
  Feeling
  Perceiving

This all adds up to create an individual (such as myself lol) who is creative and highly empathetic; listening to many people but actually talking to a tiny elite circle who really know the crazyness that lurks beneath the surface..

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Here are my favourite authors who are also INFP:

William Shakespeare, J.R.R Tolkien And George Orwell

I am not a huge fan in labels and confining yourself, I am a firm believer in that to define is to limit; but knowing what sort of individual you may be makes you better able to play your strengths and work on your weaknesses.

What is your personality type, do you know? You could try the free version here

~B

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The world in my head is unlike what you can possibly imagine